Understanding and Practicing Step Ten

Up to this point, the Twelve Steps focused on teaching us the right principles to embody in recovery. Now, it’s time to put those principles into action on a daily basis. There is no point in working so hard to establish a decent moral compass if we intend to toss it by the wayside later…

Fulfilling the Twelve Promises: Part 7

The Seventh Promise is something we actually talk about quite frequently on this site. Perhaps you may not have noticed, but it’s true. This is the promise that relates to selfishness, something that pretty much all addicts and alcoholics have experienced at one point or another. If you are familiar with the Twelve Promises, then…

7 Principles of True Fellowship

There’s nothing wrong with being a bit introverted. Many addicts and alcoholics are introverts. It doesn’t necessarily mean that we never enjoy being social, or even that we lack social skills. It just means that social interactions tend to leave us a bit drained, and we occasionally like being on our own to recharge. But…

5 Daily Tips to Achieving Long-Term Happiness

If we asked you to list five common emotions, which ones would you name? Happiness would certainly be one of them, so we’ll scratch that one right off the list. Now, you have four left. What are they? Would you name love, excitement, confidence and courage? Or would you name anger, depression, loneliness and fear?…

Embracing the Fifth Tradition

Each month this year, we have been covering one of the Twelve Steps in addition to one of the Twelve Traditions. Now that it is May and we have already covered Step Five, it is time to take a look at the Fifth Tradition. Like many of the traditions we have already covered, Tradition Five…

The Blame Game: A Fun Exercise for Learning Forgiveness

Table of Contents Pointing fingers is easy. It’s forgiveness that can get tricky sometimes. (pathdoc/Shutterstock) Forgiveness doesn’t always come easily. The struggle to let go of our resentments and forgive those who have harmed us can take quite a while, especially for deep-seated resentments that we have held for several years. But if we wish…

Fulfilling the Twelve Promises: Part 4

Last month, we noted in our article on the Third Promise that it was technically only one half of a longer sentence contained within Chapter 6 of the Big Book. The second half of that sentence has been turned into the Fourth Promise, which is much shorter than the Third Promise yet no less important.…

Seven Heavenly Virtues: Humility

Humility is the most important of the Seven Heavenly Virtues, which is why it has been chosen to end this series. Much as pride is often seen as the root of all the Seven Deadly Sins, humility is in many ways the attribute which breeds the rest of the virtues. Without it, we would not…

Seven Heavenly Virtues: Patience

The penultimate article in our series on the Seven Heavenly Virtues may come as a surprise to some. Not the concept of patience as a virtue—which is, after all, a rather common expression—but rather the fact that its counterpart in the Seven Deadly Sins is generally held to be wrath. It may be a bit…

Seven Heavenly Virtues: Charity

In the most recent installment of our series on the Seven Heavenly Virtues, we mentioned that kindness meant more than just charity. Of course, the two clearly still go hand-in-hand. And once recovering addicts and alcoholics have learned the basics of kindness, it is time to begin branching out and finding new ways of demonstrating…