Embracing the Ninth Tradition

As we move through our series on the Twelve Traditions, it becomes more difficult to apply them to our own lives. Some of the later traditions don’t apply to our personal lives as well as others. This stands to reason, as the Twelve Traditions primarily dictate how AA/NA groups are to be run. But Tradition…

Understanding and Practicing Step Twelve

We now reach the final article in our series on the Twelve Steps. This is the point at which we should experience our spiritual awakening, assuming that we haven’t already. By the time we reach Step Twelve, our spiritual principles will rise to new levels. In most cases, we found ourselves to be happier and…

Staying Sober for the Holidays

It’s Thanksgiving, which means that whichever holiday you celebrate in December is right around the corner. This can be a treacherous time of year for those in recovery; going into the holidays without a solid relapse prevention plan might put you right on the path to danger. Staying sober for the holidays might seem like…

Fulfilling the Twelve Promises: Part 9

For some time now, we’ve been elaborating on the Twelve Promises listed on pages 83-84 of Alcoholics Anonymous. These pages, included in Chapter 5 (“How It Works”) discuss the benefits of working Step Nine of the AA program. But as we say in many other articles in this series, many of us begin to see…

Fulfilling the Twelve Promises: Part 8

Our series on the Twelve Promises offers something interesting that you won’t get from our series on the Twelve Steps or the Twelve Traditions. While each of those other series focuses on things you must do in order to maintain a principled way of life, this series focuses on the benefits of living in such…

Reading Guide for ‘Working With Others’

While Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions (the 12&12) covers each of the Twelve Steps in separate chapters, Alcoholics Anonymous (the Big Book) preceded this book by nearly thirty years. As such, it should come as no great surprise that the Twelve Steps receive a fair amount of focus here as well. Each of the first…

Fulfilling the Twelve Promises: Part 7

The Seventh Promise is something we actually talk about quite frequently on this site. Perhaps you may not have noticed, but it’s true. This is the promise that relates to selfishness, something that pretty much all addicts and alcoholics have experienced at one point or another. If you are familiar with the Twelve Promises, then…

Guide to Socializing at 12-Step Meetings

Socializing becomes rather difficult for some of us when we enter recovery. Perhaps we once excelled at making friends. But as substance abuse gradually took control over our lives, many of us lost touch with this particular skill set. We didn’t know how to meet people outside of bars. We shunned those in our lives…

7 Principles of True Fellowship

There’s nothing wrong with being a bit introverted. Many addicts and alcoholics are introverts. It doesn’t necessarily mean that we never enjoy being social, or even that we lack social skills. It just means that social interactions tend to leave us a bit drained, and we occasionally like being on our own to recharge. But…

Should You Consider Breaking Anonymity?

People in sobriety maintain anonymity for several reasons. In the case of AA, members are encouraged to maintain anonymity for the sake of the program itself. If a person relapses, those who know them might blame the program rather than the individual. Others maintain anonymity out of fear. They do not wish others to judge…