What It Means to Hit Rock Bottom

There is a pervading theory in the world of addiction recovery that addicts and alcoholics must hit “rock bottom” if they are ever to accept the fact that failure to control their substance abuse has made their lives unmanageable. Due to the very nature of the disease, it is quite difficult for addicts to accept…

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Service Work in Recovery

“Do you see how an act is not, as young men think, like a rock that one picks up and throws, and it hits or misses, and that’s the end of it. When that rock is lifted, the earth is lighter; the hand that bears it heavier. When it is thrown, the circuits of the…

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Removing Our Character Defects

When discussing our battles with addiction, we often make mention of character defects. Sometimes, these defects of character are related to our lack of inhibitions while intoxicated. At other times, our shortcomings may be influenced by co-occurring disorders that cause us to behave in an antisocial manner. But whatever the cause of these defects, the…

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Filling the Void in Addiction Recovery

When we recently covered the disease model of addiction, we noted that many addicts and alcoholics indulge in substance abuse as a means of filling a spiritual void. Of course, it never really works. If filling the void were really as easy as doing some shots or smoking some dope, addicts would be the happiest,…

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The Disease Model of Addiction

We often refer to addiction and alcoholism as a disease, but what do we mean by that? We certainly aren’t talking about some airborne, Outbreak-style virus. Some non-addicts despise the disease model, as they believe it to be a mere excuse for destructive behavior. Others have mocked the disease model due to a perceived comparison…

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Understanding the Jellinek Curve

Table of Contents Meet E.M. Jellinek, the man who conceived our current understanding of the moral and physical decline of alcoholism. (Current Biography, 1947) Addiction treatment is a confusing time in a person’s life. As a new patient attempts to organize themselves and come to grips with their surroundings, they may find themselves wondering how…

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Michael Phelps on Addiction and Recovery

A little while back, we wrote an article on famous people in recovery in which we mentioned a number of athletes. One of the most prominent names on this list was Olympic swimmer Michael Phelps. Many knew that he had smoked marijuana and that he had experienced a couple of run-ins with the law while…

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The Importance of Your Sobriety Date

When we were in our addictions, the days of the year all blended together. We are fortunate in that this is no longer the case. (Brian A. Jackson/Shutterstock) Every once in a while, those who attend 12-step meetings may hear someone open a share by giving their sobriety date. There are men and women the…

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The 4 Primary Attachment Styles

We recently discussed advice on dating in recovery, noting at the time that some of our advice would be subject to differ depending upon the personality types of the people involved. While we gave some broad examples of various personality types, we did not go into much detail on attachment styles. But attachment styles are…

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Advice on Dating in Recovery

People have some widely differing opinions on the issue of dating in recovery. The common belief, however, is that those who are recovering from addiction and alcoholism should not date within the first year. We’ve briefly mentioned this rule before, in our article on building a strong and sober support network. Now, we’d like to…

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