A Guide to Sober Dating

If you are single and in recovery, it can get pretty lonely. No matter how long you have been in recovery, it is perfectly natural to want closeness from someone else. Romance and dating are complicated, and addiction recovery can make experiences even more complicated. Not everyone – especially those who are new in recovery…

Avoiding Major Decisions in Early Recovery

In a recent episode of popular CW show Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, a main character voiced concerns about leaving his home in California to attend business school. This character, a newcomer to Alcoholics Anonymous, told his sponsor that it would violate “the major decisions rule.” Up to this point, the show portrayed his sponsor as relatively strict.…

Changing Unhealthy Habits at Amethyst Recovery

Of the many things addicts and alcoholics have in common with those who have enabled them, the tendency to engage in numerous unhealthy habits is near the top of the list. When addiction turns into a family disease, everyone affected will develop this tendency to an almost frightening extent. And while it may be clear…

Seven Heavenly Virtues: Patience

The penultimate article in our series on the Seven Heavenly Virtues may come as a surprise to some. Not the concept of patience as a virtue—which is, after all, a rather common expression—but rather the fact that its counterpart in the Seven Deadly Sins is generally held to be wrath. It may be a bit…

Seven Heavenly Virtues: Chastity

It was mentioned in our initial article on the Seven Heavenly Virtues that chastity had something of a broad definition. Technically, the same could be said of diligence or temperance, as both encompass numerous virtuous qualities that would be beneficial to the life of the recovering addict or alcoholic. But each of these was still…

Alpha Series: Developing Our True Identity

The second part of our new counseling approach, the Alpha Series, focuses primarily on the development of a true and healthy identity. Some may wonder how this differs from biblical self-awareness, a series of lessons which also focuses on the development of our identity. And in many ways, the two are similar. But some may…

Alpha Series: Biblical Self-Awareness

We recently announced that Amethyst would begin embracing the teachings of the Alpha Series, a counseling approach that teaches the gospel of grace by incorporating lessons from the Bible into a program of recovery. Three parts of this approach were outlined, the first of which focuses on biblical self-awareness. We would now like to talk…

Seven Deadly Sins: Lust

We have now reached the penultimate article in our series on the Seven Deadly Sins. To date, we have covered envy, gluttony, sloth, greed, and wrath. We now turn our focus toward lust. This is a bit of a unique one, as it can manifest as either an emotion or a physical feeling. The same…

Addiction and the Seven Deadly Sins

Many are familiar with the concept of the Seven Deadly Sins. Those of certain religious faiths believe these to be the primary transgressions or general character defects that will ensure we suffer a rather unfavorable afterlife. Those who are not religious will likely still see the Seven Deadly Sins as behaviors which are to be…

The 4 Primary Attachment Styles

We recently discussed advice on dating in recovery, noting at the time that some of our advice would be subject to differ depending upon the personality types of the people involved. While we gave some broad examples of various personality types, we did not go into much detail on attachment styles. But attachment styles are…