Reading Guide for “To Wives”

Aside from addicts and alcoholics themselves, nobody suffers more than those forced to watch a loved one suffer. They sometimes blame themselves for their loved one’s disease, especially if they can identify past enabling behaviors. Such people experience constant fear, depression, self-pity, and quite often resentments. They lie on behalf of their beloved addict or…

Learning How to Move Forward

One of the hardest things to overcome after years of addiction is our guilt. For quite some time, we remain convinced that our disease hurt no one but ourselves. Eventually, however, we come to realize that this isn’t quite true. In many cases, this realization leaves us devastated. Tortured by the pain of our own…

Overcoming Abstinence Violation Effect

When a person relapses after a significant period of sobriety, they often find their substance abuse to be as bad as it was when they quit. In some cases, it may even be much worse. There are a few reasons that their use may spiral out of control in a very short amount of time.…

Fulfilling the Twelve Promises: Part 6

Each month, we have been updating our series on fulfilling the Twelve Promises. Now that we’ve reached June, it is time for us to focus on the Sixth Promise. The Sixth Promise is about learning not to doubt ourselves. It is about learning to accept ourselves for what we are. And if we can do…

Fulfilling the Twelve Promises: Part 1

The Twelve Promises, also referred to as the Ninth Step Promises, are an interesting part of AA culture. They are not technically published as a list, but rather as a paragraph on pages 83-84 of the AA Big Book. Yet many have taken them and published them in list form on occasion, referring to them…

Alpha Series: Biblical Self-Awareness

We recently announced that Amethyst would begin embracing the teachings of the Alpha Series, a counseling approach that teaches the gospel of grace by incorporating lessons from the Bible into a program of recovery. Three parts of this approach were outlined, the first of which focuses on biblical self-awareness. We would now like to talk…

Seven Deadly Sins: Pride

If you have been following our series on the Seven Deadly Sins, then it should come as no surprise that we have saved pride for last. We have already covered envy, sloth, gluttony, greed, wrath, and lust. And if you have been paying close attention, you will notice that each of these types of thoughts…